How to Win Your Man Back

Did something go wrong between you and your man? If you were well on your way to being a happy couple and then fell off track somehow, don’t give up. You can win your man back.

Steps

#1 Make yourself scarce for a little while. Keep busy. Never call him, or you’ll look desperate. Don’t answer his phone calls; let him leave messages.

#2 Take some time to reflect on your own life. What improvements can be made? Be honest with yourself. Have you been selfish? Demanding? Argumentative? Angry? Jealous?

#3 Change your ways. Once you’ve figured out what you may have done wrong in the relationship, resist the urge to call the ex and show off your newfound self-realization. Actions speak louder than words. Just BE the new improved self, and word will spread.

#4 Look and feel your best. Get your nails and hair done. Take a nice warm bubble bath, and pick out a nice outfit.

#5 Be sure of yourself. Assertiveness and self-confidence are naturally attractive to most people. Showing your guy you’re capable of being happy is appealing and brings a natural desire.

#6 Cross his path. Try to go places where you’ll probably bump into him. Or, go to your man’s house and be sure to make an excuse to see him (”My cat ran away, can you watch out for her? Call me if you see her, okay?”).

#7 Lay the “bait.” Get a fine looking guy and kiss or get to know him in front of your man or his friends to get him jealous. The “bait” guy could be one of your friends that your man doesn’t know.

#8 Casually ask if he’d like to do something non-committal, like have a drink with friends, play miniature golf, play tennis, etc. Something friends and first dates alike can do. And whatever it is, keep it fun. Skip out on the serious talks for now. You’ll have plenty of time to talk about that later. That’s very threatening to a lot of guys. If he initiates it, follow his lead. But don’t go heavy.

#9 Let him know you were thinking about him. Remember that one time you two went to dinner at that great new restaurant and had a fabulous time? Leave him a short email telling him you ate there recently and thought of him. And, by the way, how is he doing? This is a non-threatening way to have a light conversation, and also, a small request for a reply back.

#10 Invite him to talk to you. Express regret things weren’t working out between you and ask if you can talk about it now that you have some perspective. Ask if what went wrong was related to what you’ve been working on. Your ex may have a different perspective!

Tips

* If these steps don’t work, then go up to your man and ask him back out. Or, respect his wishes. If he’s seeing someone else, don’t try to sabotage his relationship. That just shows him how selfish you are. If he’s done, he’s done, and you should move on. Don’t keep coming back and don’t wait by making yourself available to him. You have a life, so live it! Some one else is out there right now waiting for a person like you.
* If you want, go to parties with this “bait” guy, so your man could think that you really like this guy.
* Don’t let your emotions get to you, because then he’ll win.
* Any performance that your man gives is to catch your attention. So just smile and act like it doesn’t bother you if you see him making out with another girl.

Warnings

* Don’t tell his friends what you’re up to.
* Don’t let the “bait” guy think that you want a real commitment with him.
* Don’t get into fights with his “new” woman (if he has one), or he’ll never take you back.
* Never tell your friends that you are having problems with your man because they’ll just end up interfering!
* Avoid rebound relationships and one-night stands. You probably won’t make your ex jealous enough to come back, and you’ll only be adding more confusion to the mix.